Leadership Coaching: There is Only One of You in all Time

Leadership Coaching there is only one of you

Starla Sireno NYC based Leadership Coach Launches New Blog Offering Leadership Development Insights

“You teach what you need to learn.”

It’s the saying that encapsulates my 14-year coaching journey.  Here’s how it usually goes.  A client calls and asks, “Can you do a workshop on communicating across differences?”

And it just so happens that is exactly what I’m struggling with in my own life.  It’s as if the universe is holding a giant mirror up and saying, “Hmmm…maybe you could learn a thing or two while you’re teaching it.”

I know plenty of theories, models, studies and frameworks.  I also know that in everyday life, those aren’t always enough.  Being asked to teach it forces me to dig a level deeper.  Knowing the complexity that this group of people face, how do I make this concept real?  How do I make this sticky, relatable and actionable?  This is what I love about my work – creating conversations that spark self-reflection and growth.

Some greatest hits of my learning journey over the years:

Lately, the spotlight has turned toward leadership development – which means what, exactly?

It’s one of those vague, over-used terms that doesn’t even begin to describe how profound, fascinating and impactful this topic is.  There are infinitely more scholarly definitions of leadership development, but as I distill it down into what I most need to learn at this point of my life, it is summarized in this quote by Martha Graham:

“There is a vitality, a life force, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and there is only one of you in all time, this expression is unique, and if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium; and be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it is, not how it compares with other expression. It is your business to keep it yours clearly and directly, to keep the channel open. You do not even have to believe in yourself or your work. You have to keep open and aware directly to the urges that motivate you. Keep the channel open. No artist is pleased. There is no satisfaction whatever at any time. There is on a queer, divine dissatisfaction, a blessed unrest that keeps us marching and makes us more alive than the others.”

That’s what this blog will be about.  Uncovering one’s true path.  It is a process of clarifying what you’re good at, what matters most and ultimately, what you want to contribute to the world. 

At the bottom of each post, I will include a coaching concept, practice or resource that you can quickly put into practice. Each one of these tools is something that I teach in workshops or use with my executive coaching clients. 

Along the way, I love feeling like this is a conversation, so send questions, ideas for topics, comments or introductions to people I should know. 

Starla Sireno specializes in Executive Coaching in NYC. She partners with leaders to more effectively navigate the complexities of their roles, increase their influence at all levels, and hone their interpersonal communication skills in order to become more impactful both internally and in client-facing roles. Inquire how you can work with Starla or her team.

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